Desires and fantasies are, for many of us, largely out of our control and, in their raw, immaterial form, innocuous. There is nothing positive about shaming a client for her desires, no matter how they deviate from the generic script of pro-social conduct pushed by supposedly well-intentioned people. It is chilling that someone who behaved that way has ostensibly devoted her life to service.
The scare quotes around “sex-positive” to describe that therapist are apt.
